7 Rules That Married Couples Can't Ignore

The world is changing. And so are people. They create rules to break them later on. Is it bad or good? We do not know for sure.

That’s just the way it is and there isn’t much we can do to change the situation. There are a lot of countries where following traditions is one of the most important things, while other cultures are not too strict about their customs and are more open-minded. In the list below you can find 7 principles that are found old-fashioned by modern married couples. 

1. Keep things exciting...
Married people know how important it is to refresh relationship now and then. Being intriguing in your partner’s eyes is essential if you want your marriage last long. There is no need to invent new things every single day. But making your life more exciting by trying out something new is wise. We cannot avoid routine but it’s up to us to make it less boring and tiresome. 

2. Fights lead to divorce 
Different issues may arise. What happens next? People argue and fight. This in turn might lead to divorce. But is it really the only way to live? There is not a single problem that cannot be resolved if it is dealt with by 2 intelligent people. Divorce is not an option. Just try and talk with your spouse, offer your solution and learn to be a good listener. We tend to speak too much and listen too little. 

3. Vacation together
Spending vacation in different places is a very healthy thing to do. No matter how much you love each other both of you need a break. A weekend away from your spouse is not a betrayal. You are just taking some time out. It is quite natural that each of us should have their own private time and space. Usually couples who practice this say that after separate vacation their relationships get even better. 

4. Mutual hobbies
Being interested in the same things and having the same hobbies is cool yet not a must. Your areas of interests may vary. It’s even more exciting because you can always find out something more about your partner or show your inner self from a different angle. If you feel that your spouse does not want to be involved in your hobby, do not force it on them. 

5. Don’t go to bed angry
Stay positive and do all possible to go to bed with constructive thinking. Destructive mind affects your own health and ruins relationship with your spouse. In the evening stress tends to accumulate, but there are plenty of ways how to reduce tension. Listen to calm music, read a book, or just watch a comedy. 

6. Always sleep together
Sleeping in separate beds or even rooms is not a big deal. This does not mean that the partners do not love each other any longer. There are quite a few reasons why people might want to sleep separately. There are advantages in it as well – there is no one snoring or moving in the same bed with you, which means you can have much better sleep. 

7. The honesty vow 
Honesty is the best policy. This is the rule to follow when we are talking about something substantial. White lies are sometimes healthy. Let us not be too serious about small things that do not influence anything significant. For example, why not be tolerant and let him wear his favorite tie that you find ugly? Do not keep telling him how terrible it looks on him even if that’s true. However, avoid lying if the case is really serious. 

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10 Reasons To Get Married

Being married is nowadays considered to be old-fashioned. Young people find matrimony conservative and prefer to stay officially unattached. Countries with traditional views still believe that family is something essential in every person’s life.

There are advantages and disadvantages in being married. Apart from weight gain and argument, there are positive aspects. If the union is happy, what the couple may experience is financial benefits, support, and good health. Sociologists have proved that those who prefer to get married to their partner are happier in their relationship than those who stay unmarried. More than that, kids who are born to married parents are much happier and psychologically healthier. See if you agree with the following 10 opinions regarding marriage.

1. Longer Life
It has been estimated that the number of people who die is twice as high among unmarried couples. Married people take better care of each other, support their partners and provide help if needed. People who feel responsible for their spouse and kids feel the need to take care of themselves. They understand that there is someone who needs them. Advice: If you want to live longer, get married. Do not make a mistake though by marrying someone who is not your true soul mate! 

2. Looking After Yourself

Statistic data show that married females and males are healthier. Some married people feel so responsible for their beloved that they start taking better care of themselves, they quit bad habits which leads to a longer life. It is devastating and destructive to live in a relationship where people misunderstand and mistreat each other. In this case life can only be shorter and health much worse. So, the point here is not just to get married for the sake of marriage but to be happily married, enjoy your married life, love your partner and be loved back. 

3. Lower Risk Of Sexually Transmitted Diseases
Married people have a regular and stable sex life. They do not need to constantly look for a sexual partner. This lowers the risk of catching sexually transmitted diseases. We are now talking about couples in which both partners love each other and stay loyal and faithful to each other. People who disrespect their spouses and cheat on them stay at a higher risk of STDs. 

4. Better Health
For women there are health benefits in being married. Good sex life proved a complete feeling of satisfaction and happiness. This influences mood and as we know, mental health is not less important than physical health. Research has proved that single people suffer from mood swings and even depression more often. 

5. Health Issues Solved
Not only ladies experience health benefits. Married men are also healthier both mentally and emotionally when they are married. They are taken care of, feel loved and needed. It’s good for men’s cardiovascular system. They are less prone to strokes, heart attacks and other diseases.

6. Better Financial Situation
It is obvious that a couple spends more money than a single person. But the thing is that a couple makes better money and they can afford to buy more. Married men realize that they are providers for their wives and kids and start earning better money while single men can live on a lower salary since they are not motivated to work and earn more. 

7. Beating Bad Habits
Studies show that married people get rid of their bad habits much easier because their sense of responsibility for their family won’t let them drink or use drugs. Some quit smoking when they are motivated by their spouse and children. If you are single, then fighting your addiction on your own becomes far more difficult. 

8. Easier To Take Care Of Kids
When you are not alone it is always easier, especially if we are talking about growing up children. Parents who share their responsibility for their children serve a better example. Their kids learn what a real family relationship is which will make them happier personalities in their future family life. 

9. Fulfilling Life
Since a couple earns better money it means that they can improve their living condition and buy a better house or apartment in a nice location. They can also afford travelling, better food and education for their children. 

10. Lifelong Companionship
Being committed to someone is great. It’s rewarding to have a person who cherishes and protects you. These are eternal virtues. They have always been highly appreciated by people. All of us dream that some day we meet someone special with whom we will spend the rest of our lives. 

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10 Keys To A Successful Romantic Relationship

In romantic relationships, as with so much else, it’s the little things that count. Just as a mis-spoken word or odd look can throw a couple into a weeks-long feud, small and seemingly insignificant gestures can help keep a relationship on track. A little gift, an off-hand compliment, a moment of physical contact can vastly strengthen a relationship.

According to psychologists Nathaniel Branden and Robert Sternberg, who have both researched and written about the challenges of romantic relationships, these little displays of interest and affection can be more important than all the “active listening” and trust games in the world. Their research has suggested 10 keys to keeping both partners content, satisfied, and happy with each other.

1. Tell your partner you love them.

Although it’s true that actions speak louder than words, words often speak more clearly than actions. Take a moment every now and then to verbalize your feelings for your partner. A simple “I love you” or “You mean the world to me” can go a long way towards making your significant other feel wanted, cared for, and secure in your relationship.

2. Show some affection.

Small acts of physical intimacy – the hand on the small of the back as you brush by in the hallway, your arm around their shoulder on the sofa, your hand on their thigh when seated side-by-side, holding hands while walking down the street – give your partner a warm feeling and convey the love and affection you feel for them. The littlest touch can be as important, or even more important, than the longest night of sexual intimacy.

3. Show appreciation for your partner.

Let your partner know on a regular basis what it is that you like most about them – what you admire, what makes you proud, what their strengths are in your eyes. Building a romantic relationship isn’t jsut about the initial bonding – it’s about encouraging and supporting each other’s growth over the course of your lives. Help your partner achieve his or her potential by constantly building them up.

4. Share yourself.

Don’t keep your likes and dislikes, dreams and fears, achievements and mistakes, or anything else to yourself. If it’s important to you, share it with your partner. More than that, be sure to share more with your partner than you do with anyone else. While there is certainly a need for some personal space in even the closest relationship, give as much of yourself and your time as you can bear to your partner.

5. Be there for your partner.

It’s obvious what you need to do when your partner faces a major life challenge like the loss of a job or the death of a loved one. But it’s just as important to be supportive when your partner faces life’s little challenges, too – an argument at work, a rough commute, a misplaced check. Don’t let yourself be a doormat, and definitely don’t stand for physical or verbal abuse, but thicken your skin a little and be the voice of calm and reason when chaos strikes. Listen to what’s bothering them and offer whatever help – even if it’s just sympathy – you can.

6. Give gifts.

Take advantages of opportunities to give material tokens of your love. Just the right book picked up at the bookstore, a special dessert, a piece of jewelry or clothing you noticed at the store – anything small or large that tells them you were thinking of them. Leave a love note for them, or send them an SMS at work to “I love you” – again, the little reminder that they’re always on your mind will help your partner feel better about themselves and secure in your relationship.

7. Respond gracefully to your partner’s demands and shortcomings.

A big killer of relationships is unreasonable expectations. Unless you married a robot, your partner comes pre-loaded with a whole range of human failures and foibles. These are features, not bugs! Learn to recognize and appreciate your partner’s quirks for what they are: an essential part of who they are as people. Since our weaknesses are often at the core of our deepest insecurities, make sure you don’t pick on or otherwise go out of your way to highlight your partner’s flaws.

8. Make “alone time” a priority.

No matter how busy both of your lives are, make sure you commit at least an evening every week or two to be alone together. Have new experiences, share your stories, and just generally enjoy each other’s company.

9. Take nothing for granted.

Cultivate a daily sense of gratitude for your partner and the thousands of little blessings he or she has brought into your life. Remember that, if you’re happy in your relationship, your partner is doing a thousand little things for you every day to make your relationship work (as, hopefully, you are for them). Never take that for granted – a relationship is work of the highest order, and the second you stop it starts to slide away.

10. Strive for equality.

Make sure you follow the Golden Rule in your relationship: do unto your partner as you would have done unto you. Strive for a fair division of household duties and other tasks, and don’t expect or demand special considerations you’d be unwilling to offer in return. 

by Dustin Wax 

From wnmlife.com 

10 Obvious Reasons Your Boyfriend/Girlfriend Is You Best Friend

#1 You Can't Wait To Play Video Games Together
You love a lot of the same hobbies.

#2 You Order For Each Other
You know each other so well, you order for each other.

#3 You Call Each Other First With News
They are the first person you call with good news, bad news, or anything interesting.

#4 You Go To Each Other For Advice
If you ever need sound advice, they are the one you go to.

#5 You Finish Each Other's Sentences
You finish each other sentences before the other even finishes.

#6 You Know What Each Other Is Thinking
You can read each others minds just by looking at each other.

#7 You Have Tons Of Inside Jokes
You have your own inside jokes that can crack you up at any time anywhere.

#8 You Have A Secret Handshake
You made up a secret handshake and aren't embarrassed to do it in front of anyone.

#9 You'd Rather Spend Time Together Than With Your Friends
You have the most fun together, more than with anyone else.

#10 You Tell Each Other Everything
He's your best friend and you love to share everything together, even gossip.

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Ibeji

Joy of motherhood entwined 
Pairs of warriors even before their arrival
Twenty tiny fingers set for a tug of war
Kicking umbilical cords and sort 
They cuddle close together 
Fighting for space and love
But upon hearing the pregnant sound of food and breath 
They settle their differences and dance around their hemispheres 
Ibeji — Identical but one of a kind glorious fruits waiting for harvest time! 

-Olumide

Talking Drum

They will neither mind the vanquished leather; stringed, stretched,
and strapped to the heart of time. . .

Nor the bended knees of my father, as he hit her with his stick and
squeezed her spines. . .

They will neither mind the parables echoed, stories told and eulogies
rendered. . .

Nor the high pitched note rapping their ear drums, as he pluck her
veins and gyrate to his special numbers. . .

They will neither mind the king's presence; the noise of the elders
and the victorious hunters that have rented the air.

Nor the birds that have picked up the chorus
Of a battle well fought and plenitude of spoils harvested

They'll just dance to wanton abandonment
Circling the village; hither and thither
As he pull tighter and tighter
Rendering beautiful vibrations spiraling —
Cleansing mortal souls,
the bloody hands of the hunters,
and the bones of our idols. . . 

Olumide Fayomi

Olumide Fayomi's Week (20/10/2014)

Olumide Fayomi is a writer, a rapper, a lyricist, a poet and a veteran online textee/battler.

This week, on Temitope Oke's Blog is appreciation's week and the blog is celebrating one of the blog's regular contributor who debuted with his african deep-rooted style of poetry that earned him the title ''Africanist Poet''. He had blessed the blog with ''The African Metallic Snake'', ''My Pen''(his debut poem), ''Pangolo ti Pangolo'', ''Ta'mo Tiye'' among others.

THE AFRICAN METALLIC SNAKE is one among his poems on the blog and proven to be the most read.

All his poems on the blog attracted readers worldwide. Thus, the blog is appreciating him for his contributions so far and more to come from him.

Check out ''Talking Drum'' as we celebrate him on the blog this week.
http://temitopeoke.blogspot.com/2014/10/talking-drum.html

He is a successful poets and always perform miracles with the pen. He is a team player, this can be seen in his collaborative effort with fellow blog contributor and partner in poetical justice.



Check out our contributor's photo...

He's got dimples!

Have got sunshine on my whitey teeth...

Look at me, NOW!!!!

You know the deal...

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Thank You!!!